Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Birthing Class

One of my absolute favorite parts of any movie is when Tina Fey and Amy Poehler are being total stink buckets at that birthing class in "Baby Mama"



I think it would be so much fun to go and make all sorts of inappropriate comments. Of course, Mr. P would probably reign me in. He's good like that. But honestly, doesn't this look like so much fun? (I love the Tattooed dad who can't help laughing).


I've never been to a birthing class. Frances came too early to attend one last time and then, well, bed rest isn't exactly conducive to getting out of the house. So I'll just stick to watching "Baby Mama" and Jimmy Kimmel.

There's also this:
Happy Birthing!


Sunday, August 10, 2014

Boy Names

Have I ever mentioned on here that I'm having a boy? I don't think I have. It should be worth noting though, that I think the reason God has allowed me to stay pregnant this long is because he doesn't have a name.

We have two names and they were the only two that we ever came up with for this kid. Mr. P really likes one and doesn't feel too hot about the other. I'm ambivalent about the one he likes and am really rooting for the one he doesn't like. So pretty much we can't agree and we both really don't care for the other's preference.

So now I just feel like I don't like either one and I'm willing to go for a third. Except I can't think of anything! Your input is honestly and warmly appreciated.

--Stumped Momma

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Mommies Aren't Perfect

A friend of mine posted something on Facebook yesterday about accidentally hurting her little one's feelings and the lingering guilt she is feeling for doing so. It reminded me of a story.

Once when I was about four or five I was driving in the car with my mom. We had just pulled into the garage and I did something naughty (I can't remember what, but I think I called her a rude name or something). My mom got upset and reacted strongly, probably more strongly than the situation required. I was so hurt by her reaction that I was just sitting in the back seat, sobbing uncontrollably.

Then next thing I knew my mom whipped open my door and scooped me up in her arms, cuddling me and telling me how much she loved me. (Now I'm crying all over myself, remembering how special that moment was--pregnant). She kept saying how sorry she was and that she loved me and I put my little four year old arms around her neck and told her I loved her too.

Since becoming a mom that memory means so much more to me. I hope my mom doesn't mind me sharing it. To me though, it's a reminder that moms aren't perfect and we mess up, but the most important thing is to admit our mistakes to our kids and to love them up as much as we can. I have always known that my mom is my biggest cheerleader. She loves me so much and that love is so important!

I've learned something important as a mom from that experience as well. There are times that I get mad and lose my temper but when I tell Frances that I'm sorry for shouting and for getting angry, it is such a special feeling to hear her say, "It's okay, Mommy, I love you too." A child's forgiveness really is great motivation for doing better. And I think it helps Frances learn the importance of sincere apologies and recognizing how our actions affect other people.

We're all learning here and in all honesty, adults make more mistakes than kids. I hope one of those mistakes isn't failing to say sorry and ask for forgiveness.

Love you Mom!

Sunday, August 3, 2014

A Few Awesome Things About Pregnancy

It's Sunday! And Sunday is a wonderful day for thinking about all the good things in life. Right now my life completely revolves around being pregnant so I'd like to share a few awesome things about pregnancy.

  1. Baby Movements-- It was so exciting when I felt this little guy move for the first time. I had forgotten how truly magical it is to feel a little nudge inside of me, confirming that there is a precious little life in there. Feeling that connection is even more incredible the second time around because now I know how much I am just going to die with love for this little person! Anticipating the mother child relationship makes me almost giddy!
  2. Food-- I think I can really say that food is 100% more fulfilling when you're pregnant. When you've just been agonizing all day about how much you want a strawberry and then you bite into one, the effect can be a Mormon girl's version of highly intoxicating, addicting, and indescribably joyous.
  3. Naps-- Naps are beautiful whilst carrying a child. You lie down and snuggle up to your armada of pillows and next thing you know, it's been an hour and a half and the universe has righted itself.
  4. Deferential Treatment-- I don't get out much on bed rest but when I do people practically trip over themselves to be nice. Here in Kentucky a lot of people smoke (we grow tobacco here) but when they see that baby bump coming they politely step out of the way or apologize for their smoke if it's too late. When I used to go to the grocery store people would move out of my way and smile, gather up their kids so I could get through, the clerks would almost always offer to help me out to the car, and if I really wanted to I could ask that amazing produce navigator for her perfectly selected watermelon and she would probably give it to me. But I wouldn't do that--not until I was at least 7 months along, right? Right.
  5. Midwife Appointments-- Honestly, I think the nicest healthcare workers on the planet are midwives and their office staff. They can make you feel like gaining two pounds a week is the coolest thing that ever happened. And when they stick you in the bum with your weekly progesterone shot, they will make you laugh while they giterdone. But not too hard.
  6. Baby Projects-- Now what could possibly be more fun that finishing a baby quilt, hanging a mobile over a crib or folding perfect little boy outfits into a clean dresser? Only holding that baby and snuggling him all over can eclipse all the preparations for his arrival. And I just can't wait!
Happy Sabbath everyone!

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Bed Rest Survival Tips

Twenty-five days on bed rest and I sure hope I've learned something. With twenty-three days to go, I think I've got a few good ideas for how to make it through to the end.

First: Location, location, location!
  • If your doctor will let you sit up or be reclined instead of totally flat in bed, establish your spot. I moved my glider rocking chair from Frances' room to the living room close to the kitchen so that I can see almost all the traffic around my house. If Frances is playing in her room, I can see and hear her, if someone is visiting I don't have to move for them to visit with me, and if there's something happening in the kitchen then I'm far enough away to be too tempted to interfere and close enough to talk to whoever is in there.
Second:  Get ready for the day
  • You're pregnant and on bed rest and so there's definitely a lowered standard, but doing a few things every morning makes a big difference. Brush and style your hair. Two words: dry shampoo. I'm only supposed to shower a couple times a week, so yeah. 
  • Get out of your pajamas. Yoga pants are fine, just don't spend the day wallowing in the same clothes you woke up in.
  • Do your face. That way when people come over you look reasonably put together and they'll actually believe you when you tell them you're doing well.
Third: Find some projects to keep you busy
  • A few things you can do where you are can eat up a lot of time. I've made some stick horses, a quilt, a Boppy pillow cover, a changing table cover, painted some blocks to decorate my basement bathroom, written a bunch of blog posts (as you know), and read a few books. The days that I spend just vegging on the computer are the worst. It's really not a pick me up sort of thing to do.
Fourth: Invite people over
  • This has been really nice for Frances. When people come over she gets excited to spend time with their kids and it can be nice to just talk to someone. This is also a good motivation for getting ready for the day. I find that after people leave I feel more energized and optimistic for the rest of the day.
Fifth: Pick your outings wisely
  • I have a weekly doctors appointment and on those days I find one other thing I want to do while I'm out. This helps break up the weeks and reminds me that the world is still turning outside my living room.
  • On Saturday I had to choose between a church party and going to a show jumping competition. I knew that I would be very tempted at the party to get up and socialize more than I should, but at the show jumping I knew I would just sit and enjoy the event. It was really fun and I definitely enjoyed myself.
Bed rest isn't exactly a walk in the park, but there are certainly worse things that could happen to a person. I've really found that planning and having things to look forward to makes the time go by faster and helps me to not give in to my boredom and break the rules.

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Due Date

Today marks three weeks from when I went into labor and I cannot believe that I am still pregnant! This is really a miracle and I am so grateful for everyone who has been thinking of me, praying for me and my family, and helping us make this happen.

I honestly have been spending about 95 percent of my time sitting in my glider rocking chair reading, watching Netflix, eating, or talking to the random visitors who come by. There is absolutely no way that I could ever have sat for three weeks straight without a lot of help.

There have been times when I've broken the rules and done things like paint a few panels in my basement, made a shake in the kitchen, organized a closet or done a load of laundry. But my little sister has been here keeping my house clean, entertaining Frances, and entertaining me. She is wonderful and I am so sad that she is leaving in two days.

Three weeks still pregnant is probably about six weeks in the NICU and I just can't express enough how grateful I am that I've made it this far. If I can just do three more weeks then there's a great chance that this little one won't see the inside of a NICU--at all!

I just want to be able to hold my baby this time. I want him to leave the hospital the same day I do. The goal due date is August 22, three and a half weeks from today when I will be 36 weeks. It can be done!

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Listmania 3

List Update!!!

  1. Paint paneling in basement playroom. Serious progress made (almost one wall), one window frame finished.
  2. Decorate basement bathroom. Done!
  3. Put all the junk cluttering up my basement on Craigslist. 
    1. 2 dressers
    2. table
    3. futon
    4. changing table
    5. coffee table
    6. child sized table
    7. stroller
    8. Christmas tree
    9.  rocking chair
  4. Grout tile in basement shower. Serious progress made (totally cleaned and ready for repair)
  5. Clean grout in kitchen tile backsplash.
  6. Start (and finish) baby quilt. Brainstorming ideas for pattern.
  7. Read my books. Finished Anne of Green Gables! and 5 Solutions  by Linda and Richard Eyre